Wednesday, November 08, 2006

Anger Management,Thursday, November 9, 2006

Hello Ladies,
This weeks angermanagement will be at Kelly's in Penn Circle. Does everyone know where it is?
Lets get together and celebrate the fact that we no longer have to look at Rick Santorums pathetic mug on tv every 15 seconds..........although, I do feel sorry for Karen and the people of Penn Hills, as I am sure he will be moving right back into that 4 room house that is his "official Residence".........Maybe his half wit wife will want to join our group, we should invite her, she can always say "thank you for the invitation, but I must politely decline"!!!!!!!!Geeze,what an idea, we can invite all the Republicans that lost, I'm sure they have some pretty though anger issues.
But who would break it to Melissa Hart that we don't frequent lesbian bars,we wouldn't want her to get her hopes up.
I am sure some of you have Friday off, so we can whoop it up..........
See you all at Kelly's around 8:00.

Wednesday, October 11, 2006

For those who feel the need, you can print this page and use as a tool for managing your anger. (As if we need it)
For those who think it's all a pile of crap..... we are meeting at the Elbow Room, Thursday @ 8:00.

Print this page to measure your anger.
1. How am I feeling right now?
___ Anxious
___ Worthless
___ Hostile
___ Depressed
___ Mean/evil
___ Revengeful
___ Bitchy
___ Bitter
___ Rebellious
___ Paranoid
___ Victimized
___ Numb
___ Sarcastic
___ Resentful
___ Frustrated
___ Destructive
___ All of the Above
These are some of the names that we give to our feelings of anger! There is no cure for any of them. The first step in resolving our anger problem is to identify it as anger! The purpose of this step is to make our anger more specific. No one can manage anger that is vague and covered up with euphemisms.
2. What happened to make you angry?If we can focus on the specific incident which triggered our anger, our anger becomes more understandable and more easier to manage._______________________________
3.Who am I angry at?
___ My own self
___ My spouse
___ My partner
___ My boss
___ The kids
___ God
___ The Human Race
___ My Life
___ All men
___ Women
___ Other races
___ Miscellaneous
___ All of the above
Our anger usually will involve five (5) general areas.(1) Our anger at others, (2) Others anger at us, (3) Our anger at self, (4) Residual anger from the past, or (5) Abstract anger.
Now that you have established the fact that you are angry and that your anger has an "object" in the real world, you are ready for the fourth step in working through the anger process. You are ready to factor your anger into its main components. If you can identify the specific facets of your anger, you will be in a better position to put your anger into a more moderate and more manageable perspective. You can do this by asking yourself a series of focusing questions.
4. How did the situation make me feel besides angry?(Example #1: I resent being forced to give into them all the time. It makes me feel powerless!)(Example #2: His criticisms of me makes me feel unappreciated and good for nothing.)__________________________________________________________________
Now that you have pin pointed your feelings underlying your anger, you are now ready to put your anger in a clearer perspective. The next step is to "peel" your anger down to the next layer.
5. What about this angers me the most?For example, you have established the fact that in the above situation it made you feel powerless, unappreciated or good for nothing. You are now ready to take a closer look at these feelings underlying your anger. What is it about being made to feel powerless that angers you the most? Some examples of what you might find upon deeper analysis is:
"there is nothing that I can do about it."
"I feel so stupid!"
"I feel guilty for allowing it to happen."
"I feel inadequate to cope with this situation."
Having peeled your anger down to this level, you are ready now to penetrate your anger at its deepest level. You are ready to focus on the real issue underlying all of the prior layers and levels of your emotional distress.6. Now, what about this angers me the MOST?This level of self-analysis usually brings us down to bedrock. Down to the fundamental issue which underlies all the others, and which must be identified and relieved if we are to strengthen our vulnerability to mismanaging our anger -- and making our lives more miserable than it needs to be. The answer found at this level of self-analysis often turns out to be, "I feel so worthless!" It is hard for us to respect someone who is stupid, helpless, inadequate and powerless! And when we have those feelings towards ourself, they destroy our respect for our ownselves.We lose our self respect and hold ourselves in contempt. The final step in managing our anger consists of replacing these feeling or worthlessness--even unworthy of our OWN respect -- with its specific antidote. The only antidote for self contempt is self respect.

Thursday, September 28, 2006


Dear Kotex:
> I recently noticed that the peel-off strip of my
> party-liner had a bunch of "Kotex Tips for Life" on it.
> Annoying advice such as:
> Staying active during your period can relieve cramps.
> Avoiding caffeine may help reduce cramps and
> headaches.
> Drink 6-8 glasses of water a day to keep you hydrated
> and feeling fresh.
> Try Kotex blah blah blah other products...
> Obviously the individual behind this was someone who
> has never possessed a functioning set of ovaries.
> Go ahead and tell a menstruating woman that drinking
> 6-8 glasses of water will help keep her feeling fresh.
> Like we need more fluid inside our bloated bodies from
> hell...but go ahead...I triple-dog-friggen-dare-ya...
> See what happens and report back. I'll wait.
> While you're at it, dump out the coffee at work and
> remove the chocolate from the vending machine.
> I garan-friggen-tee that the first responders will be
> females who just ovulated.
> Staying active will relieve headaches & cramps...well
> guess what, the only activities that interests me is
> eating..sleeping..bitching or crying for no apparent
> reason.. ...and oh...does ripping someone's head off
> count as a friggen' activity?????
> Look, females don't need or want tips for living on
> their feminine hygiene products.
> Younger girls are already hearing "helpful" crap like
> that from elderly relatives.
> Veteran females have already concocted their own
> recipes for survival, many containing alcohol &
> barbiturates.
> Printing out crap advice while sneaking in ads for the
> brand that was already purchased is just plain
> annoying, not to mention rude, and is enough to send a
> girl running to the Always brand.
> It's not a fun time, but DO NOT try to cheer us up by
> adding smiley faces or bunnies or flowery cutesy crap
> to your products or the packaging. Put the crap in a
> plain brown wrapper so we can throw it in our carts
> discreetly and have it blend in among the wine and
> beer.
> There is nothing more annoying than having a blinding
> pink package announcing your uterine state to everyone
> in the store. Why don't ya just add an in-store
> microphone to the damn package & announce
> that...helloooo, another female in the store is on the
> rag!!!!!
> So take your tips for living and your cute bunnies &
> the smiley faces and shove them right up your ass.
> PS How about adding a free sample of Pamprin & maybe a
> shot of Bourbon to your packages instead?!


Wednesday, September 20, 2006

What is Anger?
The Nature of Anger

Anger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage," according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in the study of anger. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up,(So that’s my problem) as do the levels of your energy hormones(who has any energy hormones left?), adrenaline, and nonadrenaline.
Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (Such as men who think our whole Anger Management thing is all about them, they give themselves way too much credit, it isn’t) or event (having to face the same judge in traffic court today that I humiliated in the Elbow Room a few weeks ago, He wasn’t in a forgiving mood,he’s still the biggest asshole I ever met.), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems.(Hello, aren’t the problems cause by anger, caused by problems, caused by anger…..) Memories of traumatic or enraging events (again, the Judge and the B man comes to mind, not to mention a husband droping dead in my kitchen, but whose keeping track….)
Tonight we will discuss ways anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response is that if outward expression isn't allowed, your anger can turn inward—on yourself.(OH NO!!!, we can’t be angry with ourselves) Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression. (I think I would rather suffer the consequences and not redirect it)
So that solves that, discussion canceled, just drinking……Brillo Box, Penn Ave. Thursday @8:00.

Thursday, September 14, 2006

Sorry girls, tonight you are all on your own tonight. I still do not feel good and am too sick to even think of a creative way to say it......

Wednesday, September 06, 2006

This Thursday we will meet at Hambone's on Butler Street. We can sit in the side room and watch the game, or for those who are interested, we can discuss the following:
ANGER: THE TWISTED LIGHT A journey into the meaning of anger
LECTURE, 10th of September, 2006, 7:30PM
What is anger? What is any emotion in its inner nature? This evening's lecture will examine emotion as misplaced cognitive power and as a failed gesture of creativity and perception. Emotion is the fallen, self-oriented form of feeling -- that heightened sensitivity by which we know and contribute to the world. We will consider whether anger is ever justified, and how to transform it into the power of meditation.
Just joking of course, Erin and Janice thought this would make us look official. They need some discussion points in case they are forced to attend lecture. (We know how angry they are)
See you all tomorrow, remember to look for us in the other dining room. I will be there around 7:30 to watch the beginning of game.
Girls, try to think of new places to go. I am running out of ideas. Let me know.

Tuesday, August 29, 2006

This Thursday's Anger Management will be at Mardi Gras. I'll be there before 8:00.
There is also a Steeler Game on at 7:30 so you can watch game there if you want.